Shaykh Abdalqadir is speaking of is not an erudite academic exercise,
but an existential encounter with our self of the utmost exigency. The
man must go out, not stay at home. His project can not be his family and
his business to support it. He must have a higher project and it is
that he establishes justice. D.H. Lawrence saw that that man, “with that
spark in him” was the endangered specie, under threat by what he called
the “money man”.
The new economic man fears the censure of the other,
and therefore the negative discourse begins: that his wife may complain,
that the mother-in-law would berate him. It is not that he does not
take care, but that he should not be enslaved under an imposed tyranny.
The father-in-law may appear to be successful yet has long since faded
from himself, as T.S. Elliot called them ‘the hollow men…the stuffed
But society says you must be responsible – to the family, to the
mother and what of the children and their needs! How can he go off and
be so irresponsible? So what on earth is this business of the heroic?”
'Shaykh Dr. Abdalqadir as-Sufi - Leading Intellectual of Our Time' – by the late Hajj Abdallah Luongo, raheemahu'llah.